I spend too much time on Instagram–this I know to be true. But sometimes it has its benefits, like when I came across a quote from Portuguese author Jose Micard Teixerira that so accurately summed up my belief system these days. He said, among many things:
“I no longer have patience for certain things… simply because I have reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism.
I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me, and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me. I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate.
I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities.”
I can’t quite put my finger on what it was that happened in 2018, but I grew up. I realized I can’t please everyone, and I shouldn’t have to. I let go of friendships that were doing more harm than good. I learned that self-care is choosing not to argue with anyone committed to misunderstanding you.
I shed a lot of ugly last year. And I’m so much better for it.